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Boys and Feminism

Ask Weezy How Boys React To Feminism

Question from Chloe S.

Dear Weezy. So I just need to rant to somebody but all my friends live their lives for boys and would change who they are in a second just to get a boy’s attention! >_< I posted a photo on Instagram about feminism and it got half as many likes as one of my group pics or pictures of my pets or even a freaking SELFIE!!!! The thing is all the people who liked it were girls!!! And I know a lot of boys in my grade follow me and def. saw that pic. But chose not to like it because of the topic!!!

Why are so many boys so effing ignorant!!!??? Sometimes boys (even 50-something male teachers!) make sexiest comments in class and it annoys the heck out of me!!!!! Ugh. Doesn’t it just bother you that people don’t see how much of a problem inequality is between genders is??!?

Weezy

I greatly admire your idealism and I think you are a person who will go far and achieve much with her life. Yes, it bothers me, but I have gained a certain amount of either understanding or complacency regarding this issue. You can decide which after hearing me out.

I accept and understand that the genders are different. I don’t believe that complete “equality” is attainable, necessary or realistic.

Is there equality between dogs and cats? Cats get to roam around outside without a leash. They go up on the furniture. They can stay home alone much longer. It’s not that you value Fluffy more than you do Fido, (Does anyone ever actually name a dog Fido?) it’s just that cats and dogs are different.

OK, so now you may be glaring at your screen and bellowing, “Are women supposed to be the cats or the dogs here, Weezy!? These are two different species! For the love of Mother Nature, Google it!”

Women are neither the cats nor the dogs. It’s just that I do so love analogies and I am attempting to convey that women have always been and will always be different from men.

Women, after all, carry the baby. Additionally, hormonal factors cause men and boys to think, feel and act differently than girls and women. They are biologically programmed one way, and we another.

On top of which, you are living your life online. Any boy who “likes” a post about feminism is subject to the teasing and ridicule of his friends. You have not lived one day as a boy. You do not know what it’s like.

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Kids In Show Business?

Do Kids Have Any Business In Show Business?

Ask Weezy

Question from Dana

I am extremely jealous of my brother. A few years back, I started doing theater, and my younger brother started right behind me. Since then, we have both been getting lead roles in most plays we audition for, and we have bonded a lot from being in so many productions together.

Last summer, we were both in Little Mermaid, him as Prince Eric and me as Scuttle. Then the director recommended him for a paid gig. From there, my brother got bigger and bigger roles, and now he’s in the choosing for the lead role in an independent film that’ll be shown in movie theaters nationwide.

Meanwhile, nothing is happening with me. I’m the one who got him into performing, I did it first. Now he’s doing all these big things and I’m not there with him. He’s being interviewed in newspapers while I’m sitting at home and I can’t take it. I want to be happy for him, but I can’t help thinking that he stole my dream. I wanted to be a performer and he just swooped in and beat me at it.

I’m so jealous that I can’t sleep. I don’t know how to stop being so angry at him. I feel like it makes me a terrible sister. What do I do??

Weezy

What you are feeling is very natural. But cutting to the core, let’s see if we can remove anger from the equation of your emotions by remembering that your brother is not purposely doing anything to you. This is just happening and he is being swept up in it.

You did not get him into performing. You were just a child doing what you love. You have the same parents. He came along. It was happenstance that got him into performing. Right now, he is riding this current and it may not be the best thing for him.

The unfortunate truth for kids in show business is that if they catch a big wave too soon, they may take a tumble and do damage that makes it very difficult for them to catch their next wave…

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Ask Weezy: If Cary Grant Had A Tumblr…

Was Cary Grant Gay, Straight, Bi or Tumblr-Sexual?

Question from Courtney F.

Hey Weezy, I’ve been questioning things lately (sexuality wise). I think I’m physically attracted to boys, but sexually attracted to girls. Would this make me bisexual?

Weezy

I am not sure. But what I am rapidly learning is that there are many new and emerging terms designed to help identify various sexual preferences. The Internet is serving as a magnetic force field that is pulling and aggregating people’s personal truths. Tumblr.com is on the front line of this revelatory movement. Here, for example, is one man’s Master List of Sexual Orientations.

My new belief is that there has always been this much diversity within humans and that the Internet is now allowing for more communication that promotes understanding and sharing and a sense of inclusion.

Many kids used to grow up feeling confused and “different,” so they would keep their feelings private and they would attempt to pry themselves into the least objectionable of two available boxes, labeled either Straight or Gay. They would situate themselves and their secret thoughts within that box, and they would carve out a life that often included a lot of lies and secrecy.

Since I began answering letters from teens six years ago, I have come to understand that things and people have never been that simple. It’s becoming increasingly clear that those of us who identify as straight or gay had far too easy a time telling other people that they had to pick a team.

But the tide is shifting and kids growing up today have a strong interest in allowing each other to identify in whatever way their natural inclination is inspiring them. New terms are springing up, and classifications can be everything from highly specific to very fluid depending entirely upon you and how you feel.

For example, right now I am reading Cary Grant: A Biography by Marc Eliot.

I used to believe that Cary Grant was probably a gay man pretending to be straight for the sake of his Hollywood career. I now think that he was either bisexual or bi-romantic or, choosing from the Tumblr list, maybe Androgynosexual.

He was married five times to five different women and was famously in love with Sophia Loren, so possibly, he was sexually attracted to men but romantically attracted to women? Only Grant knew for certain.

He probably would have had a very cool Tumblr page, but my point is that throughout his lifetime, he endured a lot of gossip and innuendo regarding his orientation, and it really just should not have mattered.

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