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Our Place Out Loud – Teen Advice Podcast

 

Teens are Talking on Our Place Out Loud, the video podcast  launched from a teen advice and social network that would not remain silent!

In this fine episode, Teen Expert, Louise Palanker and a panel of wise and wonderful teens discuss:

Turning “Talking” into Dating
Feeling Ugly
Advice for Middle School
Too Many Friends?
Moms and Trust
and a whole lot more!

You can find Our Place in the iOS App Store.  It’s Free!

Family Band: The Cowsills Story

Family Band: The Cowsills Story – Extra Raw Features

Family Band: The Cowsills Story - Extra Raw Footage
The Cowsills in 1968

If you order the DVD of Family Band, our Cowsills documentary  on Amazon, you will receive a bonus disc with special features.  Or, in days of yore when there once was a Blockbuster Video up the street, you could maybe have rented the Family Band DVD and enjoyed those special features.  But raise your hand if the last time you attempted to pry open a DVD case was about four years ago.

Now, new fashioned trendies such as we can stream our enjoyment.  Real life has become like a prolonged hotel stay!  You get to click around and watch everything on demand without the embarrassing check outs.  (“Oh, geez, they all know I watched The Chipmunks Squeakquel… twice.)

The flood of immediate entertainment possibilities is all so guilt inducingly hypnotic.  I know I am not the only individual who is shamefully in possession of two DVDs which will never be mailed back to Netflix for fear that they will send me two more DVDs.

But still, as we bask in the afterglow of a Mad Men season well binged.  We must ask ourselves, what fate will befall the dying art of the DVD special feature!?  I don’t know.  I’ll have to google it. They are still available somewhere right?)  Like on HBO, right after Bill Maher but before Boxing?)

What I do know is that I am sitting on over 300 hours of Cowsills extra footage and I am not the only person who finds this interesting.

I have been told by many that Family Band is a movie that stays with you.  Most of you who have watched it, have re-watched it numerous times and many of you have expressed unanswered questions.  You want to know more about their Mom, more about their adult relationships with their parents, more about what may have happened to all of the money, etc. etc.

Telling a concise, streamlined, cohesively sound story is very tricky when you have seven siblings, each with his or her own truth, plus the arc of the band and a mom and dad who are no longer with us to share their perspectives.  As you pull your story together, you have to make tough choices.   We did, and some of them still haunt me a little bit.

This is where special features can be especially fulfilling.  The filmmaker gets to depart from the expected constructs of documentary story telling and offer up more free form, stream-of-reality nuggets.

But now we’re back to the part where most of you are not going to purchase or rent the DVD.  So, rather than just including the special features in that package, I worked with Create Space at Amazon to get them streaming.  They are available now.

Clicking Here or on the photo above will bring you to the Amazon link for what we are calling our Extra Raw Features.  They are 1 hour and 26 minutes, slam packed with Cowsill Goodness and they include:

On the bus with Susan

Bob with Shirley Jones

Backstage with Paul and John

Bob with Artie Kornfeld

On the Road with Richard and Barry

Going Home Again

The Anthem at Fenway

The Rain, The Park Music Video

River of Love Music Video

Click on over and let me know what you think.  Oh, and hands down.

Louise Palanker, long exposure by Ian Broyles

Our Place Out Loud – Teen Advice Podcast

Our Place Out Loud is a teen advice talk show featuring Louise Palanker and a panel of actual teens… who talk out loud about all of the stuff that really matters.  Teens are Talking on Our Place Out Loud.

Episode 178 Features:

Talking to Your Crush
Stretch Marks? Do Guys Care?
Addiction
The Friend Zone
and more…

Louise Palanker on Business Rockstars with Steve Lehman and Jay Samit

Guesting on Business Rockstars

Steve Lehman, Jay Samit and Louise Palanker on Business Rock Stars
Steve Lehman, Jay Samit and Louise Palanker on Business Rock Stars

My former Premiere Radio Networks founder and partner, Steve Lehman is now heading up a new  Entrepreneur and Start-Up Business Platform driven by Radio, Television, & Social Media.  It’s called BUSINESS ROCKSTARS ACADEMY and they produce events and market PRODUCT for Entrepreneurs.

BUSINESS ROCKSTARS brings together some of the world’s biggest and most accomplished CEO’s as well as successful small business owners and entrepreneurs.  Business Rockstars is a resource  for “Wantrepreneurs” that generates content focused on:

STARTING A BUSINESS
GROWING A BUSINESS
FUNDING  A BUSINESS

The Business Rockstars radio show is hosted by Founder of the Media, Entertainment and Technology Alliance MET, Ken Rutkowski and with Ken on vacation, Steve graciously asked me to guest on the show, thus beginning our adventure.

My Our Place partner, Trish Bock and I ventured down to a spiffy, techie, hipster building in Santa Monica called ROC.  It is the former home of Google and although it may be mourning the loss of its scooters and nap pods, the slick and trendy vibe is still quite present.  To the point where we travelled through several tunnels, halls and breezeways before finding the ladies’ room.

There, Trish transformed me with her makeup magic and we set off on our journey back to the studio.

Steve’s co-host was digital innovator and entrepreneur, Jay Samit whose opening question to me was, “Why in God’s name would you make a movie about The Cowsills?”  This guy knows how to win hearts.  Next he asked, “Why didn’t  you just make a film about Up With People?”

“Hold on,” I said, scrambling for my notepad app.  “You are an idea man.  Let me take this down.  Up With People.  Behind the Enthusiasm For Painfully Phony Optimism.  Got it.”

I actually said, “Please tell me that you are not comparing The Cowsills to a hollow, grinning troupe of merry music makers, funded in the late sixties by corporate entities including HalliburtonGeneral Motors, and Exxon  and intended to counter the hippie subculture?

OK, I’m paraphrasing, but I did politely ask if he had seen Family Band and he has not.  I heartily encourage him to do so and to then watch, as I intend to, The 2009 Up With People documentary called Smile ‘Til It Hurts which makes the claim that this musical organization emphasized extreme right wing politics, and enforced cult like rules including arranged marriages.

So, it turns out that an Up With People documentary would, in fact, be so intriguing that it has already been made.

Jay and I then quickly bonded over our mutual love of Standing in the Shadows of Motown, a great film in which he was heavily involved and then the show began.

We spent the first segment discussing Family Band: The Cowsills Story and how one goes about making a movie.  My advice being to do so only at the risk of great financial peril.  The second segment focussed on my teen social network app, Our Place.  

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Jay and Steve asked excellent questions and offered fantastic input. The biggest inquiry of me being this, “You are a creative.  Are you really an entrepreneur?  I answer this question in the affirmative because as a creative, I believe it’s crucial to ally myself with business greats and technological geniuses.  Those who can fill in with strength where I am weak.  That is the definition of a team.

This was the recipe that built Premiere Radio Networks.  Steve Lehman, Tim Kelly, Kraig Kitchin, Ed Mann and me.  Not only did we offer our own talents and abilities, we recognized each others and we knew when to lead, when to follow and when to get out of the way.

By cultivating an excellent team, goals are more fully and naturally realized but also, any achievement is sweetest when shared.

Thank you, Steve Lehman, for ranking me amongst the Business Rockstars.

Jealousy by The Millionaire Waltz

Ask Weezy Teen Advice – Sister Jealousy

Ask Weezy
by Louise Palanker

Image by The Millionaire Waltz

I host a safe and friendly teen social network, ios app called Our Place. Each week, thousands of questions pour into the community. Kids share with one another and I personally respond to about 20 questions per day in a  teen advice column called Ask Weezy. What are today’s kids thinking about? Here are this week’s top five questions.

Question 1
Why is my sister like this? Why does she hate me so much? She loves staring at me, like at my stomach because I have a belly. She’s fatter than me and she has clothes that she can’t fit into anymore, so she gave them to me but every time I put them on she wants them back. She love pointing out my flaws. Cursing me out and embarrassing me in front of others. Why is this?

Weezy
You can turn this ship around. Compliment her and mean it. Laugh at her jokes. Tell her that she is good at something. Tell her she looks cute in that outfit, etc. etc.

This is sibling rivalry, plain and simple. As long as you take part, it will continue to escalate. Your sister is insecure and she is consciously or subconsciously knocking you down a peg and measuring herself against you.

Life will not work well for her if she persists. We all do better and feel better when we lift each other up. Show her how this is done. Lift her up.

Question 2
OK, I’m a sl*t cause I have crushes? Oh wow. well. I’ll be honest here I have a crush on a kid and I made some sexual jokes to let him know why I like him. But I did it in front of my brother.

Whenever I do something bad my dad gives me a certain look, so I believe my bro told him what I said. But my brother actually did something worse. If he told on me, do you think I should tell on him?

Also, my friend is about to reveal a secret but I know stuff about her. Should I tell it before she says something about me?

Weezy
If your brother has put himself or others in danger, you should tell an adult. But not as revenge. Simply because it’s the right thing to do.

You are off and running down some dangerous roads and you need to do a serious re-boot on your approach to life.

We all need to be loved and appreciated. Saying sexual things will get you immediate attention but the kickback will be harsh and sometimes permanent.

If you want a boy to like you, appreciate in him what he appreciates in himself. Compliment him. Smile at him. Make him laugh. Listen to him when he talks.

Anything sexual can and should wait until you are over the age of 18 and in a serious relationship with love at its foundation.

On to the next part of your question. It sounds to me like you may be seeking the wrong kind of attention because none of the kids in your family are getting enough of the right kinds of attention.

Another person’s nasty behavior will never justify your own.

You can not control what others do. You can not stop people by using threats, coercion, or fear tactics.

Own your own actions and do not follow a wrong with another wrong. That just heaps garbage on garbage.

I hate the Sl… word. It’s not nice. It’s not kind and it never addresses the root cause of a behavior. It just adds shame to the situation.

You are not that word, nor will you ever be. But I want you to do a lot of thinking about the person inside of you. Who is she? What are her goals, dreams, talents, aspirations? What IS her potential?

It is your job to stop behaving in ways that make you sad and to start becoming a person who will make YOU proud.

Question 3
Hi so I’m going to this outdoor science camp for school for 5 days and I got my period. I’m freaking out and I’m so worried and I need help!! What do I do!??? We will be on a 3 hour drive and be hiking ALL day long everyday .

Weezy
As you grow older, you will learn how to do just about anything while on your period. Is it inconvenient? Yes. Can you handle it? Yes.

If you are very young, say 11, 12 or 13, it is perfectly acceptable to let a female supervisor know that you have your period so that she can subtly plan bathroom breaks for everyone.

Trust me. Women help girls with this issue. The reason you know nothing about it is that we do it very discretely.

The women in your world simply need to be informed. That is all it will take.

You will be just fine.

Question 4
I feel like there’s an empty place in my heart like I lost something. I feel pain in my heart now. So I was in the school drama club and we just had our last show. This was my last year at the school and all the graduates were crying when we finished the show.

I miss the people, the rehearsals, the shows and it just hurts me to think that it’s over. I feel actual pain from the loss. It’s a withdrawal for me. I can never do it again. That’s it. It’s over. I had great experiences there my 3 years of middle school but I need advice on moving on. Please don’t Say to find a new club because nothing will ever be the same. Thanks

Weezy
No, nothing else will ever be the same. The only thing that ever stays the same is that things will continue to change.

The good news here is that you are sad. It means that you had a fantastic experience which is now on its way to becoming a cherished memory. So, cry. You should.

Then give yourself something to look forward to and start thinking about all of the adventures that await you in the high school drama program.

I have to tell you to join a new club. Because even if I didn’t, you would still know that you must. This is what you love to do. Continue. It won’t be the same. It will be a new kind of wonderful. You just learned the steps. Keep dancing.

Question 5
Hey weezy ! (: Okay, my friends are always bugging me about this one guy that likes me, I don’t like him so I told them to stop, but they won’t listen. What do I do?

Weezy
Halt other activities and conversations. Make direct eye contact and say, “This really bothers me and makes me uncomfortable. Please respect me and this boy. Just stop.”

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Our Place Out Loud – Teen Advice Podcast

Episode 177 With special musical guest, Keaton Simons

Our Place Out Loud is a teen advice talk show featuring a panel of wise and wonderful kids along with host and teen expert, Louise Palanker.

This week’s installment finds the panel and Keaton discussing:

First Kisses
Crush Drama
Divorcing Parents
Rebellious Siblings
and more…

Plus, Keaton performs his hit single, Beautiful Pain.

Join us!

Peter Anderson and Kenji Okuhira

Byline Burbank – Special Effects Experts

Last week, I ventured into Burbank to lunch with my Our Place Partner, Patricia Bock and her co-worker, Ray Hamilton.  We walked and found ourselves at Mo’s.

The meal, the setting, the company… Glorious.  I can highly recommend it all. Everyone at Mo’s looks oddly familiar.  Like they are either sort of famous or they went to camp with you.

And then we spotted a show biz moment more delicious then the food.  Two men dining with an Oscar.

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Kenji Okuhira, Oscar, Peter Anderson

Who takes an Oscar to lunch?  This question became more important than my tuna melt.  And so I ventured over, intruded and inquired.

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Peter Anderson and Oscar

This gentleman is Special Effects Expert, Peter Anderson.  He is a legendary leader in Hi-Tech productions, having revolutionized filming in 3-D, Special Venue, Large Format, Visual Effects, High Frame Rate and Digital Production.

He introduced us to his lunch mate, Kenji Okuhira who was stopping over in Los Angeles to meet his idol before heading on to the London premiere of his new film, Godzilla 2014.

We had just crashed an important summit.

This did not deter us from taking more photographs.

Peter Anderson with Louise Palanker and his Oscar
Peter Anderson with Louise Palanker and his Oscar
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Peter Anderson, Oscar, Patricia Bock

As we continued on our way, fate pulled us towards this poster.

And upon closer inspection, our new friend’s name, up in Univers 39 UltraCondensed Thin font.

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Godzilla Poster
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Kenki Okuhira on Godzilla Poster

Yes, this all really happened.  And yes, Trish’s nails look this perfect every day.

 

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Ask Weezy: Teen Advice – Jealousy

Ask Weezy

by Louise Palanker

Art by Dolokun

I host a safe and friendly teen social network, ios app called Our Place. Each week, thousands of questions pour into the community. Kids share with one another and I respond to about 20 questions per day in a  teen advice column called Ask Weezy. What are today’s kids thinking about? Here are this week’s top five questions.

Question 1

Sometimes the guys I think are cute and like flirt with my friends right in front of me and it makes me so jealous because I don’t think I’m not as pretty as them. I end up doing something stupid and really mean that I regret and I don’t know how to stop.

Weezy

The answer is learning to see the beauty of your own soul with your own heart and mind, rather than looking for it reflected in somebody else’s eyes. Love is not a competition.  It’s collaborative. It is not endangered.  it is abundant.

A boy flirting with another girl takes nothing away from you.  It is its own isolated dynamic.  It has nothing to do with you. That very girl who currently feels like a threat may grow up to become the doctor who saves your life. You can not spend your day looking at others with envy and disdain.  They are humans, just like you.  They have love to give and they need love in return.   The boy who is meant to be your forever guy is out there.

The more loving you are to EVERYBODY the more attracted he will be to you. Show the world your most giving spirit and that love will be returned to you. Once you put healthy energy patterns in motion, you will be amazed.

You can’t have every guy.  You don’t want every guy.  At this point in your life, it’s time to let the flirting fall where it may.   Look at it this way: Only when you stop being mean will real love have an opportunity to find you.

Question 2

I don’t know how to explain this but I have an eating disorder and I don’t feel I am deserving of treatment. There are so many more worse problems in the world than an ED. I feel like an awful person because there are starving people in the world who don’t get to pick if they eat or not and here I am not eating or, if I do eat, vomiting it up.

I feel like I am so selfish and an awful person for doing this.. Am I selfish? How can I stop this? And if I get help it will go on my record and I wanna go into the navy. They may not let me in if I have a mental illness…

Weezy

An eating disorder is not a badge if shame. Nor is any emotional or mental condition. It’s like a broken arm. It just is and it needs to be fixed. I don’t mean to be harsh but you must stop coming up with reasons not to seek treatment.

Eating disorders are not judged. They are understood and they are healed. Until you do that you will not be strong enough to join the Navy. You can not serve your country until you are healthy.

At present, your priority is your disease, and until that is cleared up, you are not being loyal to your true self. You can call any Navy recruitment office and learn about their policies regarding eating disorders. Certainly, you would be asked about this during your physical and it will be against the law to lie.

No matter what you choose to do with your life, you won’t be able to get there while you are still inside this disease. So, first get treatment. Get well. And then begin to formulate what you would like to do with your healthy and whole life.

Question 3

Hey! My biggest crush asked out my friend and she said yes! I’m really mad at her for saying yes. She said she has liked him for a long time! But I love him! I have liked him longer than she has because I have loved him since kindergarden! What do I do!

Weezy

You may like him a whole lot more than she does but he gets to decide who he likes romantically. I know that is hard to hear.

If it’s a deal breaker between you and your friend, let her know, as delicately as possible. You can say, “It will just hurt my heart to see you two together, so I am going to have to take a step back as your friend, while I get over him.”

Or you can cry for a couple of days, then come up for air and accept this. It’s such a gray area. Part of me believes that you can’t lay claim to a boy. The other part of me says, she probably should have put her friendship with you first. But it’s impossible to know how much she cares for him and we can’t make this decision for her.

One thing I will tell you is that if you ask a friend to choose between you and love, they will usually choose love. Even if they live to regret that choice. Love is powerful that way.

Your friendship is more important than this boy. But when you are in the middle of this sort of struggle, it sure doesn’t feel that way. So, don’t say anything you can not take back. You have every right to feel hurt and angry. But think before you speak and then choose words that will allow you to one day retrieve this friendship.

Question 4

This morning, I looked at my belly in the mirror. I haven’t done this in months, because I hate the way it looks. I go to my doctor once a year, I’m a healthy weight. He never says anything bad. But I feel fat because I saw my stomach moving around. Now, when I walk, I think about it, and can feel it jiggling slightly.

I always exercise and have a decent diet. It’s just the way I look. How do I learn to accept it?

Weezy

You tell yourself that this is the way you look and this is the way people look. This is your body. Designed and engineered to go the distance. It is here to serve you and you will pilot your body through this life you have been given.

Would you stand outside a car and stare at it and judge the fender? Why does it stick out like that?!

To protect your car.

Now get into the car and go.

A woman’s body comes with curves. That’s how she is built. Stop judging your body and go share the spirit of your being with the world.

Question 5

My dad is very unpredictable. He yells at us kids and at the dogs. He scares us. I know he had a bad childhood. But last night he was screaming at our older dog and she was shaking. I ran to my room and that just upset my dad. He saw my scared face so he screamed, “I would never hurt the dog and then he was swearing and he slammed my door.

Later I saw him on the couch comforting the little dog and being affectionate. I just went to my room crying.

I want to have a close relationship with my father but I can’t trust him. I also know he will not seek professional help. I just don’t know what to do. He ruins my moods. I was having a great day today until all of this happened. Do you have advice?

Weezy

If he will not seek professional help the quality of his life will continue to be compromised. You should ask your mom if the rest of the family can go to therapy so that you can learn how to better deal with a father who is so unpredictable and frightening.

He was scaring, not just you kids, but also the animals. When you see him giving all that love to his little dog, it’s because that dog will bounce right back to being affectionate towards him far more quickly than will a child.

A child needs love, compassion, conversation, renewed trust, time to heal, etc. Look how frustrated he became when your face revealed your fear. You were still very upset.

What does he do? He slams your door and stomps off??? Sorry, no. That is not OK with children. But who is back in his lap within moments and ready to forget that anything ever happened? His dog.

Your father loves you, fully and completely. He just does not know what to do with himself when he gets all wound up. He has no healthy place to throw all of that negative energy.

He’s not angry with you. He’s angry with himself. You can write him a note, telling him how frightened you get. You can give your mom a copy of that note and you can request that you see a therapist to talk about your fears surrounding your father’s unpredictable behavior.

Cassidy McMillan, Actress,  Filmmaker, Writer

Teen Advice: Our Place Out Loud – Bullies and Friends

Episode 176 with special guest, Cassidy McMillan, director, producer and writer of the new documentary film, Bullies and Friends.

Plus teen advice from our panel of experts

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Ask Weezy: Teen Advice – Are You Beautiful?

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Image by: OzMilkshakes from DeviantArt.com

by Louise Palanker

I host a teen advice driven social network called Our Place. Here are this week’s highlights.

Question 1

How do I accept that I am ugly ? I try my hardest to look pretty. I did my hair a different way, changed my style a bit, makeup, etc but nothing works. I just want to be pretty like other girls. I’m tired of crying myself to sleep, looking in the mirror and just crying, etc.

I’m not even sure if any guys like me. They look at me and that’s it. For example : the same guy may look at me over and over but doesn’t talk to me or approach me. He may be looking at me over and over wondering why I’m so ugly because where I live about 99% of girls are pretty.

I’m so sick of everything. I isolate myself from mostly everyone my age cause I can’t get along with any of them. They always say negative things and nothing positive. It hurts so bad…. Okay! The problem is that I don’t want to cry because of my ugliness. How do I accept I’m ugly?

Weezy

You are not ugly. Let’s put that first and foremost. Next, most girls your age do not feel great about their looks. And most importantly YOU are not your appearance. Wouldn’t it be sad if that’s all we were? The way we look? Nothing more?

Appearance does play a part in how we initially react to another human being. That is built into the core of our instincts. But then our brain must take the rest of the journey.

If you had to make a list of the ten most important and influential people in the history of time, your list would probably have NOTHING to do with appearance. I know mine wouldn’t. My list would go something like this:

Martin Luther King

Ghandi

Abraham Lincoln

Thomas Jefferson (OK, he’s kind of cute)

Golda Meir

Eleanor Roosevelt

Rosa Parks

Nelson Mandela

Harriet Beecher Stowe

Susan B. Anthony

Anne Frank

All of these people are beautiful.  When you allow yourself to feel this much pain over the way you look, you are not giving yourself enough credit for the actual person that is you. Please stop looking in the mirror and start looking out into the world. The question is not, “What do you look like?”  It is, “What are you going to do with the life you have been given?”

Question 2

I’m scared to do what I love the most in my own house. Drawing. Cause my dad comes up to my room and gets mad at me for not studying. I have really good grades already but he doesn’t think it’s enough. Art is my outlet. He even knows. I talked to him & he says he cares but he actually doesn’t. He won’t listen.

Weezy

Think about what your dad values. What does he do to unwind? Then compare your drawing to that. Say, “Dad, this is what replenishes me. It will help me study harder and do better. I need this. Please trust my judgement. I know when to study and when to give myself a well needed break.”

You have heard the word, “recreate.” If you break that word down, it says “re-create.” We, as humans do not do well if we do not have a chance to re-create our energy. Explain this to him from that perspective. Try to get your mom to help you do this.

Question 3

Hey weezy… So I was wondering if this was a good idea? So I really like this girl (we’re both lesbian) and I know she likes me (at least as a friend I guess) and I was wondering if it is ok for another friend to tell her that I like her… Cos I really can’t myself and I’m scared if she doesn’t know she’ll find someone else even though she probably likes someone else anyway… Do you think her finding out I like her would ruin our friendship??

Weezy

It may ruin your friendship or it may not.  But liking a friend is exactly the same whether you are straight or gay.

Once you have feelings, the friendship is already ruined.  It is now out of balance.  You like the person romantically.  That person may still like you as only a friend.  Meaning, the two of you have different agendas.  That’s not going to be healthy, moving forward.

She deserves to know your truth.  Once that is revealed she will have the information she needs to make her next decision.  Without clarity, your “friendship” limps along.  You want more.  She’s not sure why you are so easily hurt by this or that.  You interpret everything she says or does through a filter of hope that it means something.  She can’t understand why you don’t want her talking to some other girl.

Once she knows that you like her, everything makes more sense.  Will this harm your “friendship?”  Your friendship was “harmed” the moment you began wanting more.

Let your other friend carry the truth to your crush and then deal with the consequences.  I know it’s scary but this is what needs to happen.

Question 4

We’ll this guy has been embarrassing me at school because he thinks I like this other guy.  I was just being friendly to the guy but I do kinda like him but i don’t know. These two kids are friends so whenever I text the guy I like, “hey :)”  the other guys sees it and he is just mean at school.  In front of everybody he says still liking (boys name)? and then he laughs. I’m afraid everyone will hear and I need advice on how to overcome it and not be scared. Please help.

Weezy

You can look right back at him and say, “You’ll never know.” or, “What if a do?” Or, very sarcastically, “Oh, my gosh. A girl may like a boy. Alert the media.” Honestly, nobody has a right to tease anyone over a crush because we all get them.

Question 5

I’m 12 and this guy is in his 20’s. I met him from youtube though he didn’t post videos. I did. He was the first guy I ever really liked.  We had nice conversations. Didn’t talk about sex or anything.  We act/think just alike.  I can’t explain it, but I really did like him until one day i stopped talking to him.  He then deleted all his social networks.., He also helped me out with my suicidal thoughts.  I stopped talking to him because my parents fussed at me. I don’t think he’s a pervert. He never said anything sexual. But he runs though my mind everyday ..

Weezy

It is completely normal for a 12 year old to have a crush on a 20 something year old. But your parents have every right to be concerned about your talking with this man online. It just sounds shady. It may not have been and he may be just fine. But it is still very dangerous.

When a man goes out of his way to contact a 12 year old online, his motives will always be questioned. If you knew him in real life and he were a teacher or a youth pastor or a mentor, it would be much more acceptable.

Online connections can so easily lead to inappropriate language and suggestions. This is why the internet is full of predators and pedophiles. They can very easily speak to you away from your parents. They start by being your best friend and being there for you and completely understanding you. Then it becomes sexual very quickly.